這是我在2006年3月寫的信息分享大綱，用於團契小組在大嶼山的退修營的小型崇拜。
引用經文：
創 2:18-25
18耶和華神說：「那人獨居不好，我要為他造一個配偶幫助他。」
19耶和華神用土所造成的野地各樣走獸和空中各樣飛鳥都帶到那人面前，看他叫甚麼。那人怎樣叫各樣的活物，那就是他的名字。
20那人便給一切牲畜和空中飛鳥、野地走獸都起了名；只是那人沒有遇見配偶幫助他。
21耶和華神使他沉睡，他就睡了；於是取下他的一條肋骨，又把肉合起來。
22耶和華神就用那人身上所取的肋骨造成一個女人，領他到那人跟前。
23那人說：這是我骨中的骨，肉中的肉，可以稱他為「女人」，因為他是從「男人」身上取出來的。
24因此，人要離開父母，與妻子連合，二人成為一體。
25當時夫妻二人赤身露體，並不羞恥。
NASB
18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”
19 Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought {them} to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name.
20 The man gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the sky, and to every beast of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him.
21 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place.
22 The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.
25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
信息分享大綱
1. 健全的男和女都同樣是有神的形像：
創1:26-27: 26神說: “我們要照著我們的形像，按著我們的樣式造人；使他們管理海裏的魚、空中的鳥、地上的牲畜，和全地、並地上所爬的一切昆蟲。” 27神就照著自己的形像造人，乃是照著他的形像造男造女。”
26 Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; and let them rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over the cattle and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” 27 God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
(a) 神的屬性分為：
(i) 可傳遞，道德性的：
如：聖潔、公義、信實、良善、憐憫、真理、慈愛。
(ii) 不可傳遞的，非道德性的：
如：無所不能，無所不在，無所不知，不變等。
(b) 為何有神形像重要？
2. 健全的男和女都同樣是獨立 (=能離開父母) 的人：
(a) 創2:24（是對誰說的？）
(b) “離開” 表示割斷了與父母間的臍帶：不再倚賴、獨立：男女都相同。
3. 如何分辨他/她是否適合的未來終生對象？
(a) 他/她是否懂得管理/協助管理？
(i) 創2:8: 耶和華 神在東方的伊甸立了一個園子、把所造的人安置在那裏。
8 The LORD God planted a garden toward the east, in Eden; and there He placed the man whom He had formed.
“安置” 意思是：
- 得平安（申3:20）
- 安然居住（申12:10）
- 放在神面前＝與神相交（民17:4; 出16:33）
(ii) 創2:15: 耶和華 神將那人安置在伊甸園、使他修理看守。
- 修理: 服事，修剪，耕種，照料。
- 看守: 看管，保護；看守園子（家）免壞人、壞東西入侵；看守兒女，保護、照顧兒女；看守神的話。
(b) 他/她是否懂得二人成為一體？
(i) “連合” : 創2:23: 男人角色是保護與供應；女人提供愛和關懷。
(ii) 創2:25: 夫妻之間要坦誠相待，沒有羞恥感，乃赤露敞開。
蘇牧師：《溫馨家庭之旅》：是非題：
- 婚後各自保留自己銀行戶口？ (是/非)
- 作重大注定 (買樓、買家俬、離開香港) 前決定了才問對方？ (是/非)
- 不開心時沒有告訴對方？ (是/非)
- 各自與自己的同性/異性朋友去街？ (是/非)
(c) 他/她是否懂得與同性/異性相處？
- “那人獨居不好” ：若果一人獨處，沒有人跟他交往，這並非人的本質，不論是不是基督徒，人與人之間總需要彼此交往，人們不能一人抽離其間。這點與結婚與否沒有關係，也和同性/異性交往沒有關係。
- 在教會裡大家凝聚一股力量，取出燒紅的炭後很快就熄滅。
(d) 他/她尋覓異性朋友時是否按神的帶領？
- 亞當說：「這是我骨中的骨，肉中的肉。」神為亞當預備合適的配偶，讓他得著幫助，神設立婚姻，藉以解決始祖獨居不好的問題。當他尋覓配偶時，他全然按著神的管理，並順服祂的帶領。
(e) 可否“相睇” ？ 可否“積極” 追求？
- 創24:1-67
4. 如何決定 “選擇” 未來結婚或不結婚？
(a) 創世記第一章：所有創造： “神看著是好的”
(b) 結婚或不結婚同樣美好：
馬太19:11-12：(a) 天生； (b) 為人； (c) 為神
11耶穌說、這話不是人都能領受的．惟獨賜給誰、誰才能領受。
12因為有生來是閹人、也有被人閹的、並有為天國的緣故自閹的．這話誰能領受、就可以領受。
11 But He said to them, “Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given.
12 “For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it.”
林前：
7:1論到你們信上所提的事、我說男不近女倒好。
7:2但要免淫亂的事、男子當各有自己的妻子、女子也當各有自己的丈夫。
7:3丈夫當用合宜之分待妻子、妻子待丈夫也要如此。
7:4妻子沒有權柄主張自己的身子、乃在丈夫．丈夫也沒有權柄主張自己的身子、乃在妻子。
7:5夫妻不可彼此虧負、除非兩相情願、暫時分房、為要專心禱告方可、以後仍要同房、免得撒但趁著你們情不自禁、引誘你們。
7:6我說這話、原是准你們的、不是命你們的。
7:7我願意眾人像我一樣．只是各人領受 神的恩賜、一個是這樣、一個是那樣。
1 Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.
3 The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
6 But this I say by way of concession, not of command.
7 Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that.
(c) 神造人具有群居的特質；愛是世界上最寶貴的事物。因為神是愛，當祂按著祂的形像造我們時，祂同時賜給我們愛與被愛的能力。每個人都需要別人；但是婚姻和家庭卻不是唯一的選擇：
林前：
7:32我願你們無所挂慮。沒有娶妻的、是為主的事挂慮、想怎樣叫主喜悅。 7:33娶了妻的、是為世上的事挂慮、想怎樣叫妻子喜悅。 7:34婦人和處女也有分別。沒有出嫁的、是為主的事挂慮、要身體靈魂都聖潔．已經出嫁的、是為世上的事挂慮、想怎樣叫丈夫喜悅。 7:35我說這話、是為你們的益處．不是要牢籠你們、乃是要叫你們行合宜的事、得以殷勤服事主、沒有分心的事。
32 But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord;
33 but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife,
34 and his interests are divided. The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 This I say for your own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord.
(d) 其實不是自己 “選擇” 結婚或不結婚，而是神的心意要你應否結婚。
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